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必威体育精装版英语四级模拟资料 Part II Reading Comprehension (Skimming and Scanning) (15 minutes) Seven Ways to Create a Happy Household Every family is different, with different personalities, customs, and ways of thinking, talking, and connecting to one another. There is no one right kind of family. But whether parents are strict or gentle, stormy or calm, home has to be a place of love. encouragement, and acceptance of their feelings and individuality for kids to feel emotionally safe and secure. It also has to be a source of donts and limits. Most of us want such an atmosphere to prevail in our homes, but with todays stresses this often seems harder and harder to achieve. From time to time, it helps to take stock and think about the changes we could make to improve our homes emotional climate. Here are a few that will. 1. Watch what you say. How we talk to our children every day is part of the emotional atmosphere we weave. Besides giving them oppor?tunities to be open about how they feel, we have to watch what we say and how we say it. We often forget how much kids take parental criticisms to heart and how much these affect- their feelings about themselves. Psychologist Martin Seligman found that when parents consistently blame kids in exaggerated ways, chil?dren feel overly guilty and ashamed and withdraw emotionally. Look at the difference between Roger, this room is al?ways a pigsty! You are such a slob! and Roger, your room is a mess today! Before you go out to play, it has to be picked up. One way tells Roger he can never do anything right. The other tells him exactly what to do to fix things so he can be back in his moms good graces and doesnt suggest he has a permanent character flaw. For criticism to be construc?tive for children, we have to cite causes that are specific and temporary. Another constructive way to criticize children is to remind them of the impact their actions have on us. This pro?motes empathy rather then resentment. 2. Provide order and stability.