How to say No to other people如何敢于对别人说不.pdfVIP

How to say No to other people The trick to saying No is be warm but firm. 说“不”的诀窍在于温和却又坚定。 1. Prioritize. To say no, the first step is to be clear on what exactly are your priorities in life. The more firmly youre connected to your Yes, the easier it will be to say No. 1. 分清轻重缓急。说“不”的第一步是搞清楚在你的生活中到底什 么是至关重要的事情。你越执着于生活中的重点，说“不”就会越简 单。 2. Be appreciative. Usually when people ask for your help, its because they trust you and believe in your ability to help them. Being kind will show that youre not rejecting the person. 要心存感激。通常别人来向你求助是因为他们信任你并且相信你有帮 助他们的能力。和颜悦色地拒绝别人将显示出你并不是在拒绝这个人， 而只是针对这件事。 3. Be brief. Ive often made the mistake of so profusely apologizing for saying No that I eventually talked my way into saying Yes! Ive since learned that you never need to apologize for doing whats right for you. One sentence is enough to explain what youre saying Yes to which prevents you from fulfilling their request. 要简明扼要。我自己就经常犯这个错误──一个劲儿地为说“不”而 向别人道歉，以至于最终会说服自己答应别人的要求。由此我明白了 一个道理，你绝不需要为自己该做的事情而道歉。在解释什么对你而 言至关重要而使你无法满足对方的要求时，一句话足矣。 4. Yes-No-Yes. Dr. Ury suggests offering a creative Yes-No-Yes solution. First, share what youre currently saying Yes to (My mother and I always go out for breakfast on Saturday mornings). Then say No (So I wont be able to help you set up for your luncheon.). Finish with a new Yes (But Id be happy to help clean up after its over). 肯定-否定-肯定式拒绝法。尤里博士建议在拒绝他人时，采用一种新 颍的肯定-否定-肯定式拒绝方法。首先，告诉对方你自己的理由（比 如“我母亲和我在周六早晨一直有共享早餐的惯例”）。接着，表达你 的拒绝（“所以我不能帮你准备午餐会”）。最后以一个肯定性的新替 代方案结尾（“但是我很乐意在午餐会结束后帮你打扫”）。 5. Take time before responding. This is another mistake Ive often made. When approached with a request, my instinctive reaction has been Sure, I can do that! To avoid saying Yes under pressure, or reacting emotionally to a request, take a few hours or a day before responding. Figure out whose interests are at stake, whats really being asked of you, and whether it makes sense to say Yes. 口在答复前三思而后行。这是另一个我自己也经