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“灵魂伴侣们”其实更容易分手 Couple who think they are a perfect match are more likely to split up, it was claimed yesterday. So-called ‘soulmates’ find rows harder to get over than those who see relationships as a journey on which they talk through their problems. 昨日一项新的研究称那些认为自己与对方完美契合的情侣们其实更容易分手。这些所谓的灵魂伴侣更难携手共度困难，而那些认为情侣关系就是一场解决问题的旅程的人则在这方面表现得更好。 Professor Spike Lee, of Toronto University, and Professor Norbert Schwarz, of the University of Southern California, asked long-term couples questions relating to ‘unity’ or ‘journey’, and got them to recall conflicts and evaluate their relationship. Those with a ‘unity state of mind’ found recalling conflicts made them feel less happy with their relationship. 多伦多大学的教授 Spike Lee 和南加州大学的教授Norbert Schwarz 询问了一些长期伴侣他们是‘契合派’还是‘旅程派’，并且让他们回想以前的冲突并评估两人之间的关系。‘契合派’们发现当他们回想起过去的冲突的时候会对他们的伴侣感到更加的不悦。 Professor Lee said: Our findings corroborate prior research showing people who implicitly think of relationships as perfect unity between soulmates have worse relationships than people who implicitly think of relationships as a journey of growing and working things out. Apparently, different ways of talking and thinking about love relationship lead to different ways of evaluating it. Lee 教授说道：“我们的试验证实了之前研究的正确性，即比起那些认为自己和伴侣在一起是不断成长并解决问题的人来说，认为自己和对方是完美契合的灵魂伴侣的人有着更差的情侣关系。很明显，对于情侣关系的不同讨论和想法会导致人们对于这段关系有着不同的评估方法。” It was the Greek philosopher Aristotle who said love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. But the study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology said this outlook can be damaging. People speak and ponder about love in apparently limitless ways but underlying such diversity are some common themes. For example, some use words like ‘made for each other,’ and ‘she is my other half’, seen by scientists as ‘the perfect unity’ frame. But others prefer ‘the journey’ idea, using expressions such as ‘look how far we have come,’ and ‘we have been through all these things together’. 希腊哲学家亚里士多德曾说过：“爱情是两个不同的身体里住着同一个灵魂。”这项发表在 《实验