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Six Lessons that Lead to LifelongLove LauraDoyle • ©2012 1 Six Lessons that Lead to LifelongLove Table of Contents What I Didn’t Know about Romance and Nobody Else Seems to be Saying 3 Lesson #1: Practice Great Self-Care5 Lesson #2: Relinquish Control of People You Can’t Control Anyway 7 Lesson #3: Receive Gifts, Compliments and Help Graciously 9 Lesson #4: Respect Men–Especially Your Man 11 Lesson #5: Express Gratitude13 Lesson #6: Strive to be Vulnerable 15 How to Adopt The Habits That Lead to Lifelong Love 17 LauraDoyle • ©2012 2 What I Didn’t Know about Romance and Nobody Else Seems to be Saying I’m a controlling person by nature. It’s possible that Steamroller would have been a more appropriate middle name for me than Michelle. In the movie Broadcast News Joan Cusack’s character says to Holly Hunter’s character “It must be nice to know what’s best for everyone else all the time!” Holly Hunter crinkles up her face in agony and says, “No! It’s not! It’s awful!” That was me—always thinking I knew what was best for everybody all the time. Of course, I can’t actually control anyone beside myself––nobody can. But that hasn’t stopped me from trying. As a newlywed I really tried to improve my husband—for eight years. I told myself I was just helping, just trying to give him tips on how to be more romantic, tidier, more ambitious and healthier. But my attempts to “help” were received as criticisms, which in fact they were. The subtext of “Why don’t’ you tell your boss why you deserve a raise?” for instance, is “I don’t think you’re very capable at work.” Ouch! I was so sure that I knew better that I just couldn’t stop some pretty harsh words from coming out of my mouth. The truth is, I believed so much in my rightness that I didn’t really think I should stop. I was just being ho