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Self-Esteem What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is how we value ourselves; it is how we perceive our value to the world and how valuable we think we are to others. Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work – nearly every part of our lives. Positive self-esteem gives us the strength and flexibility to take charge of our lives and grow from our mistakes without the fear of rejection. Following are some outward signs of positive self-esteem: • Confidence • Self-direction • Non-blaming behavior • An awareness of personal strengths • An ability to make mistakes and learn from them • An ability to accept mistakes from others • Optimism • An ability to solve problems • An independent and cooperative attitude • Feeling comfortable with a wide range of emotions • An ability to trust others • A good sense of personal limitations • Good self-care • The ability to say no What is low self-esteem? Low self-esteem is a debilitating condition that keeps individuals from realizing their full potential. A person with low self-esteem feels unworthy, incapable, and incompetent. In fact, because the person with low self-esteem feels so poorly about him or herself, these feelings may actually cause the person’s continued low self-esteem. Here are some signs of low self-esteem: • Negative view of life • Perfectionist attitude • Mistrusting others – even those who show signs of affection • Blaming behavior • Fear of taking risks • Feelings of being unloved and unlovable • Dependence – letting others make decisions • Fear of being ridiculed How c