影响女人事业的不是孩子而是老公.docxVIP

观点：影响女人事业的不是孩子而是老公（英文来源： 翻译：小笨 @煎蛋网） It’s Not Your Kids Holding Your Career Back. It’s Your Husband. 观点：影响女人事业的不是孩子而是老公 Almost a decade ago, the writer Linda Hirshman exhorted ambitious women to marry men with less money or social capital than they had. In articles and her book, Get to Work, she told women that they should avoid ever taking on more than half of the housework or child care. How to do it? Either marry a man who is extremely committed to equality, or do what she says is the easier route and “marry down.” Hirshman explained in the American Prospect that such a choice is not “brutally strategic,” it’s just smart. “If you are devoted to your career goals and would like a man who will support that, youre just doing what men throughout the ages have done: placing a safe bet.” 大约十年前，作家Linda Hirshman在她的著作《Get to Work》中就告诫过有事业心的女强人们要嫁个比自己赚钱更少的男人。她让女人们不要在家务和照顾孩子上花超过一半的时间。这就意味着，你要么嫁给一个注重平等的男人一人分担一半，要么就干脆“下嫁”给比自己弱的人让他做个煮男。Hirshman解释说，这并不是什么战略，对女强人来说只是个明智的选择而已。她说：“如果你想将精力更多地放到工作上并希望找个支持你的男人，那么你就是做着所有男人一直在做的：押一个安全的赌注”。 This was a highly controversial piece of advice at the time, but Hirshman might have been right. A new study of Harvard Business School graduates from HBS’s Robin Ely and Colleen Ammerman and Hunter College sociologist Pamela Stone shows that high-achieving women are not meeting the career goals they set for themselves in their 20s. It’s not because they’re “opting out” of the workforce when they have kids, but because they’re allowing their partners’ careers to take precedence over their own. 当年这些言论着实为Hirshman带来了很多争议，但她真可能说对了。哈佛商学院毕业生Robin Ely、Colleen Ammerman和亨特学院社会学家Pamela Stone在近期做了一个研究，结果是在事业上有所成就的女性大部分都没有达到她们20多岁时给自己设定的目标。并不是因为她们有孩子之后就不再工作了，而是她们在为配偶的事业做牺牲。 The study’s authors interviewed 25,000 men and women who graduated from Harvard Business School over the past several decades. The male graduates were much more likely to be in senior management positions and have more responsibility and more direct reports than their female peers. But why? I