英美概况chapter6.pptVIP

Verbal communication differences 路 宇 王琳琳 General Remarks Different Ways of Thinking Any compliment is welcome both in US and China, so long as it contains no hint of surprise or hidden criticism, and isn’t too intimate for the relationship. Compliments It isn’t easy to handle compliments. From time to time, compliments in one country are not those in another. (e.g. compliments about the beauty of a woman) Misunderstanding of Compliments (An American Teacher a Chinese student are at a party) Dear Lisa, you look very pretty tonight. No, no…(shyness) Yes, really beautiful. No, I’m not!... (shyness grows stronger)  Romance American perspective: In the western cultures, couples who are truly in love typically share thoughts and opinions about almost all things all the time. The lack of opinion about what she and he might do could be a sign one was losing interest in the other. It may mean that one no longer loves the other. Directly or Indirectly Showing Your Love A Dream of Butterfly It may be difficult for Americans to believe that smiling for the Chinese not only means that someone is happy but sometimes also means that someone is sorry for the error he/she has committed. Interpreting a Smile Suggestions for Communication Platinum rule mindset: Treat others the way they want to be treated; be aware of and sensitive to other cultures Maintain an open mind: Don’t rush to judgment; things are not always the way they seem Put yourself in other people’s shoes! * * It is probably the different ways of thinking that lead the different people to the different understandings of a certain phenomenon in terms of culture. The comments on the pictures: -The blue picture indicates the way of thinking, “call a spade a spade”. -The red picture indicates the “implicit mild” way in thinking. Compliments Romance A love story between a Chinese young lady and an American young man. “What do you want to do?” “Where to go today?” “Up to you