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If youve spent enough time in the workforce, you almost certainly have a trail of damaged professional relationships behind you. That doesnt mean youre a bad manager or employee; its simply a fact that some people dont get along, and when we have to rely on each other (to finish the report, to execute the campaign, to close the deal), there are bound to be crossed wires and disappointments.作为一位上司，如果你只专注于员工的工作效率，那就意味着你很有可能影响到与同事之间的关系。但是这并不等于你就是一位坏的上司，只能说你不适合与某些人相处，并且在需要对方的时候（完成报告，执行计划，签订协议等），就一定会导致理解上的缺失。Heres how to buck up and repair a professional relationship thats gone off the rails.下面我们看看有哪些方法可以改善偏离了的职业关系吧。First, its important to recognize that making the effort is worthwhile.首先，你得意识到努力的重要性。Obviously itll ratchet tension down at the office if youre not glaring at your colleague every time they enter the room. But resolving this tension will actually aid your own productivity. You can eliminate unresolved matters that nag at your mind.很明显，只要你不是每次在同事们进入办公室的时候盯着他们的话，气氛就不会这么紧张。不过，若你能够解决这种紧张气氛，这的确能够大大提高自己的创造力。甚至还可以解决让你纠结已久的工作。Next, recognize your own culpability.接着是，承认自己的过失Its easy to demonize your colleague. But youre almost certainly contributing to the dynamic in some way, as well. If you think your colleague is too quiet, you may be filling up the airtime in meetings, which encourages them to become even quieter. If you think hes too lax with details, you may start micromanaging him so much. To get anywhere, you have to understand your role in the situation.把责任归咎于同事们很容易，但是你也很大程度上促使了这件事的发生。如果你觉得同事们太安静，你还在会议期间把行程排得满满的，这样只会让他们更沉默。如果你认为同事们不注重细节，你就会开始对他们吹毛求疵。不管怎样，你应该了解自己在不同情况下的角色和作用。Now its time to press reset.然后便是重置规则。If you unilaterally decide youre going to improve your relationship with your colleague, youre likely to be disappointed quickly. The moment they fail to respond to a positive overture or display an irritating behavior, you may conclude that your effort was wasted. Instead, try to make them a partner in your effort.如果你只是单方面决定要修补与同事之间的关系，也许你会更失望。当你发现他们并