哈佛大学幸福课21课中英文双语字幕笔记.doc

Harvard Positive Psychology 21 Relationship and Self-esteem You know this story about Gertrude Stein, and she was taking philosophy class with William James, right here in the Art. 你们都听过格特鲁德.斯泰因的这个故事，她那时上William James的哲学课，就在哈佛拉德克利夫学院。 And they had their final exam. And it was spring semester course. And she comes into the exam. And it’s a day like today. 要期末考试了，她上的是春季班，她来到考场，就跟今天一样是个晴朗的日子。 And the exam is about metaphysics, and the meaning of life. So she opens the exam and writes, “Today is too beautiful a day to take an exam.” And she walks out. 于是她打开试卷，写道：“多么美好的一天，不应该浪费在考试上。”然后走出了教室。 And you know, as legend has it of course she gets a straight A in William James’ class. 而且传说William James的课程她全A通过。 Don’t use that as an example or an excuse later on in this semester. But I really appreciate you being here today. 本学期考试时不要学她或者拿她当借口，不过我真的很感谢各位今天出席。 It is a beautiful day, I was thinking of having the class outside, but I think…maybe we should. Yeah. 今天天气非常好，我想过要到户外上课的，不过...也许我们应该去的，是的。 What we are going to do today is finish up on relationships, we have just a little to go, and then start with our final topic for the course, which is self-esteem. 今天我们要讲完爱情，还差一点就讲完了，然后我们会开始讲本课程最后一个话题，也就是自尊。 So let me just recap what we did when we discussed relationships. 先回顾一下上回讲到的关于爱情的内容。 So we talked about how do we given our natures, how do we attain, how do we sustain lasting love, lasting passion when it seems on the physiological level at least, that our natures are not attuned to that approach. 先回顾一下上回讲到的关于爱情的内容。我讲到了人类要如何...考虑到人的本性，人类要如何获得，维持长久的爱情与激情，因为从心理学角度看，这似乎有违人的本性。 And we talked about when studying the best relationships, the “tip of the stem” four characteristics, based on the work of David Schnarch and John Gottman. 当我们讲到研究那些最成功的恋情时，最成功的恋情有四个特点，根据David Schnarch和John Gottman的研究发现的。 The first one is: relationship is the hard work. It’s an illusion to think that the most important thing is finding the right relationship. It is more important to cultivate that one chosen rel