《哈佛大学公开课：幸福课21-23集》英中字幕.docx

=== 《哈佛大学公开课：幸福课 21-23集》英中字幕 === === === 目 录 TOC \o 1-3 \h \u HYPERLINK \l _Toc27387 [第21集] 爱情和自尊 PAGEREF _Toc27387 2 HYPERLINK \l _Toc3138 [第22集] 自尊与自我实现 PAGEREF _Toc3138 37 HYPERLINK \l _Toc19099 [第23集] 收获交流 PAGEREF _Toc19099 74 [第21集] 爱情和自尊 Student:Hi,everyone.My name is Meghan. And we were running a really fun study right after class about mindfulness and vision. It shouldnt take more than 10 to 15 minutes. So if you are interested,we need more than 60 people. So just come up to the front after class. And it wont take a long time.Its really fun.Thank you. (Applause) Dr.Tal Ben-Shahar:You know this story about Gertrude Stein. And she was taking philosophy class with William James, right here in the Art. And they had their final exam.And it was spring semester course. And she comes into the exam.And its a day like today. And the exam is about metaphysics,and the meaning of life. So she opens the exam and writes, Today is too beautiful a day to take an exam. And she walks out. And you know,as legend has it of course, she gets a straight A in William James class. Dont use that as an example or an excuse later on in this semester. But I really appreciate you being here today. It is a beautiful day. I was thinking of having the class outside, but I think - maybe we should.Yeah. What we are going to do today is finish up on relationships - we have just a little to go, and then start with our final topic for the course, which is self-esteem. So let me just recap what we did when we discussed relationships. So we talked about how do we - given our natures, how do we attain,how do we sustain lasting love, lasting passion when it seems on the physiological level at least that our natures are not attuned to that approach. And we talked about - when studying the best relationships, the tip of the stem - four characteristics, based on the work of David Schnarch and John Gottman. The first one is: relationship is the hard work. Its an illusion to think that the m