8招应对情感操控..docx

想操控我的情感？没那么容易！8招应对情感操控There are people who will attempt to manipulate others by making them feel guilty or ashamed, or by depriving them of happiness if they don’t do as asked. Commonly known as emotional manipulation, this behaviour is a truly difficult thing to escape. Fortunately, Sofo from The Unbounded Spirit explains eight ways you can protect yourself from emotional manipulation.总有这样一些人，如果不满足他们的要求，他们就会让对方感到羞耻或羞愧，或者剥夺对方的快乐，从而达到操控别人的目的。我们称之为情感操控，而且这种行为非常难以避免。幸运的是，“无限的精神”组织工作人员Sofo向大家介绍了免受情感操控侵害的八种方法。Here are 8 ways to spot and deal with it:下面是鉴别并应对情感操控的八种方法：1. There is no use in trying to be honest with an emotional manipulator.1.试图对情感操控者以诚相待是徒劳的。You make a statement and it will be turned around. Example: I am really angry that you forgot my birthday. Response – “It makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment – but you see I didn’t want to trouble you. You are right I should have put all this pain (don’t be surprised to see real tears at this point) aside and focused on your birthday. Sorry.” Even as you are hearing the words you get the creeped out sensation that they really do NOT mean they are sorry at all – but since they’ve said the words you’re pretty much left with nothing more to say. Either that or you suddenly find yourself babysitting their angst!! Under all circumstances if you feel this angle is being played – don’t capitulate! Do not care take – do not accept an apology that feels like bullshit. If it feels like bullshit – it probably is. Rule number one – if dealing with an emotional blackmailer TRUST your gut. TRUST your senses. Once an emotional manipulator finds a successful maneuver – it’s added to their hit list and you’ll be fed a steady diet of this shit.你陈述了自己的看法，最终却被反驳。例如：你说你忘记我的生日，我非常生气。得到的回应却是——“你竟然认为我忘记了你的生日，这太让我伤心了。我应该告诉你我当时面临多么大的压力——但是你看，我并不想麻烦你。你说得对，我应该抛开所有痛苦和烦恼，专心帮你过生日（如果这时候你看到对方潸然泪下千万别惊讶）。对不起。”尽管你听到的是这样的话，然而你从他们话里话外表达的意思可以感受到，他们